Dear Kid Thursday: The love advice I will never give

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Dear 12 year old son,

You asked me last week about tips on getting a girlfriend. Right now I’m wishing you were asking me for tips on tying your shoes for the first time because girls are something I’m not ready for.

Unfortunately for me it sounds like you are. I can only tell you a few things about girls.

They like gifts. They also like it when you write them notes, so as much as it pains you to write, get used to it. They love it. They are partial to personal hygiene too so while you think you look put together in wrinkled shirt and patted down hair, she won’t. She will want to remake you and dress you up and make you presentable and smell good. Get used to it.

The advice I can’t give, you will have to learn on your own. When I asked you if you had someone in mind, you asked what I meant, so these words I impart to you:

Having a girl in mind means she makes you feel things you’ve never felt before. Both emotionally and physically. She should make you feel like you are the King of the World. Looking at her, you can imagine no other and you should dream of the day when you can hold her hand and kiss her.

But I’m not ready to advise you how to mend the broken hearts that girls will give you. I can’t tell you that many girls will come and go, all more appealing than the previous one. I can’t tell you not to wear your heart on your sleeve but let her know you like her for that is a catch 22.

In matters of the heart, you must find someone that makes you happy. At the tender age of 12, there will be many girls that will make you happy. Please don’t turn into those high school boys, you called jerks the other day, but keep in mind that sometimes, the nice guys do finish last. You must make your own way and find within yourself the kind of man and boyfriend or partner you will want to be.

I wish I could tell you that love will come easy but it doesn’t always. It hurts more than any emotion people can have. It can lift you to the heavens and drop you far into the depths of hell in same breath.

Love truly is the best and worst of emotions. As sure as you will have your heart broken, you will break them as well. Be gentle. Remember her heart is just as fragile as yours. Treat it carefully if you must let her down.

I promise to listen to your struggles and answer your questions, but I can’t tell you how to love or how to find it.

You must do that on your own.

I love you my Bug,

Mom

 

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Founder of Chaos in the Country and (original) The Guilty Parent blog, Nichole is a professional writer, blogger, social media strategist, and collector of yarn, books, and pretty paper.

Comments

  1. Oh God… I dread the day when TJ starts talking about girls that way. He has a “girlfriend” now – an older woman (she’s 4) – but that’s totally different. Despite all the hugging and kissing they do.

    Good luck to you. You’ve got your work cut out for you for the next… 10 years or so.

  2. Oh God… I dread the day when TJ starts talking about girls that way. He has a “girlfriend” now – an older woman (she’s 4) – but that’s totally different. Despite all the hugging and kissing they do.

    Good luck to you. You’ve got your work cut out for you for the next… 10 years or so.

  3. Laurie P says:

    God that’s good! i’m gonna have James read this. He’s not having problems in the girls area, but I worry that he’ll end up one of those high school jerks. scary!

  4. Laurie P says:

    God that’s good! i’m gonna have James read this. He’s not having problems in the girls area, but I worry that he’ll end up one of those high school jerks. scary!

  5. Awwww….
    And, uh, how young is too young to send my daughters to a nunnery? Do they take Jewish preschoolers?

    OK, just kidding, if all the boys interested in my girls (in a long long time) have mommies who are half as well spoken as you I’ll be lucky!

  6. Awwww….
    And, uh, how young is too young to send my daughters to a nunnery? Do they take Jewish preschoolers?

    OK, just kidding, if all the boys interested in my girls (in a long long time) have mommies who are half as well spoken as you I’ll be lucky!

  7. What a lovely and heartfelt post. Thanks for sharing that great advice. :)

  8. What a lovely and heartfelt post. Thanks for sharing that great advice. :)

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